Sometimes People Don’t Give Us What We Need Because They Don’t Have It… NOBODY GAVE IT TO THEM.
It’s foolish to get upset at someone who didn’t meet your needs when you understand that they didn’t have it to give in the first place. If it was not modeled to them growing up, they don’t have a clue.
For example, if you are in need of affection from your significant other and they haven’t been able to demonstrate it to you, then maybe growing up they did not receive affection and did not see people sharing their feelings for one another. Thus, they don’t have it to give to you. Trying to get it from them will only lead to disappointment, resentment, bitterness and frustration, which will sour your relationship.
Here’s some advice I heard that blew my mind… “Let them off the hook and go to God for what they can’t give you, because God has it all!” Selah!
God should be your source of self worth, encouragement, and approval. Say what the Word of God says about you.
Recognize the other person’s strength and weaknesses and then give them room to be who they are. The bottom line is, NO PERSON CAN MEET ALL OF YOUR NEEDS, only God can!