‘“Anger is a short madness’ (Horace) but bitterness is anger that has been boiled, simmered, and then found so unpalatable that it has been thrown into the deep freeze of our unconscious psyches.” (Elizabeth Spring)
I know from first hand personal experience how damaging it can be to live with bitterness and unforgiveness. It’s like like taking poison, it damages you from the inside out! Life is too short to carry around a great bucket-load of anger and resentment and bitterness.
There is a serious cost to bitterness. You can’t live in the present if your walking around bitter. There is no perfect person on this Earth, so are you going to be bitter at everyone in your life? It’s takes to much energy! Not only that, but what about your own self growth? Do you want to walk around as always being the victim? Anger and Bitterness blinds you from recognizing your own role, or responsibility, in possibly having been vindictively harmed by another.
Forgiveness alone enables you to let go of grievances, grudges, and resentment. It’s the single most potent antidote for the venomous desire for retributive justice poisoning your system. You should alter your attitude to free yourself of the bondage that, regrettably, is inherently linked to your bitterness.
Some questions to ask yourself?
- Did the person who hurt you really consciously intend to?
- Did the person who hurt you sincerely apologize and ask for your forgiveness?
- What’s stopping you from forgiving the person who hurt you?
- If they were to die today, would you be at peace?
- Is it really worth it?