Self Reflection for me means taking time out to exercise introspective and a willingness to change what may be looking right back at me.
I like to consider myself as being driven and productive. However, I also like to feel connected to who I am and the people I choose to have as a part of my life. Sometimes life can become off balanced. To make sure I keep the connection I like to set aside time for self-reflection. During my times of self reflection I look at my goals, my behavior, and my general state of mind. I know it may come of as narcissistic to some, but I can’t be of any good to other people unless I am first good to myself.
SELF REFLECTION SIDE NOTE: I was scrolling through Facebook and one of my friends posted this message, “You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness.”
Self reflection can be hard because you are looking in the mirror and describing what you see. One of my biggest self reflection questions is, “are you being to other’s what you need them to be to you?” Often times we only think about the role that others play in our lives but fail to understand that we also play a role in their lives too. Friendships and relationships are 2-ways. I always say, it takes being a friend to have a friend. Whether we do it self consciously or not, everyday we are observing and analyzing others. It’s one thing to be critical of others but can you be critical of yourself? Let’s face it, NO ONE IS PERFECT! If you are going to have friendships or relationships, you will have ups and downs. But can you honestly take an assessment of yourself and see how your role in the friendship or relationship may have hurt, disappointed, or affected the other person?
Somethings I Look at During Times of Self Reflection:
- Sad Moments
- Happy Moments
- Negative Patterns
- Bigger Picture
- Pending Decisions
- Thoughts (…As a man thinketh in his heart so is he…)
The way I look at it is, if I continuously go through my life the same way, I will inevitably block the chance of changing things for the better. By becoming more self-aware, I am able to have a better understanding of what I truly want in life. The key about self reflection is that it involves making changes, whether they’re significant or menial.
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